For dating
The people who seem thoughtful are just the ones who remembered.
Their sister’s name. The trip they are saving for. The film they said they had never seen. Record it in two seconds — say it into your phone on the way home — and be the person who brings it up three weeks later.
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- On-device store
- Private Mode
- Nothing sold, ever
- Patent pending
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The problem
Attention is the whole game, and attention is just recall
Show up already knowing
Nobody is impressed by a good memory. They are moved by being remembered. Those are different things, and only one of them needs an app.
Second dates are weeks apart
Long enough that the detail has faded, short enough that forgetting it is obvious. That gap is exactly where this earns its place.
Nobody sees your notes
No feed, no profile, no social graph. It is your own private memory, on your own device, and it stays that way.
How it works
A record the other person keeps current
Every tool that asked you to maintain it by hand has already failed you. This one is maintained by the person who actually knows the detail.
Just ask
Ask it before you walk in
You do not have to remember what you saved — that is the whole point of saving it. Ask in plain English on the way there and it hands you back everything you knew.
- No structure to learn. Ask it the way you would say it out loud.
- Gift ideas that land, because they come from something they actually said.
- One tap, from your phone, in the thirty seconds before you go in.
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Getting things in
Every tool like this dies of the same thing: typing. So mostly, you don’t.
Your whole address book is here on day one, and it stays that way — synced both ways with your phone, so anything that lands in your contacts lands in Deeta, and any edit you make here shows up there. Nothing to import, nothing stranded in a second app. After that a detail takes about two seconds, in whatever way suits the moment you’re in.
Capture
Say it, paste it, or save it from wherever you already are
The detail you want is almost never in front of you at a keyboard — it is in a conversation, a message, or a passing remark. So capture goes where you are rather than asking you to come to it.
- Just say it. Talk, pause, think, keep talking — the session holds your transcript and waits, and you commit when you are done. Transcribed on your device.
- Type or paste. Drop in a chunk of an email or your own scribbled notes and it pulls out the individual details for you to confirm.
- Straight from Messages, or any other app. Share it to Deeta and it is saved against the right person without you leaving the app you were in.
- Someone sends you their digital business card? Share a Blinq, HiHello or Popl link to Deeta and it arrives as real, structured details — name, title, company, numbers, socials — not a dead URL you will never open again.
- Or they just AirDrop you a contact. Send it straight to Deeta — by AirDrop, or from a Mail or Messages attachment — and it comes in as details to confirm, rather than a card you have to file somewhere else first.
- From an answer. Ask a question, then turn what comes back into a saved detail in one tap.
- Or type it. Manual entry is still there, still quick — and edits flow back to your phone’s contacts automatically.
Two seconds per detailNo import to sit through
Just ask
Questions you could actually ask it
Plain English, answered out of the details you have already saved — on your own device in Private Mode, or by the AI provider you picked.
- What did she say about her sister?
- Who did I meet who is into climbing?
- What restaurants has he already said he loves?
- Which of my matches mentioned wanting to travel this year?
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Your data. Your AI. Your choice.
You pick the AI. Including none of them.
Most apps hardwire one AI vendor and never mention it. You choose which one answers your questions — and whether one leaves your device at all.
Choose your provider
Anthropic, OpenAI, Google Gemini, Grok — or none. Set a primary and a backup for when the first one is down. On every tier, including free.
Or run it entirely on your device
Private Mode answers from your records without anything being transmitted. Ask about public things and only an anonymous search leaves — never your contacts, names or details.
And it works with no signal
On a plane or underground, Private Mode picks up automatically and you can still ask about the people you know. It is the resilient path, not a degraded one.
Privacy by architecture
Most contact products aggregate your data. This one is built so we can’t.
Data minimisation here is structural, not a promise in a policy. And we are deliberate about the claims we do not make — that precision is the point.
What is true
- Your records live in an encrypted store on your device, not in a readable pile on our servers.
- In Private Mode nothing is transmitted at all — the reasoning runs on your device. Ask about something public and only an anonymous search leaves, never your contacts, names or details.
- If you choose a cloud provider instead, you choose which one — and identities are tokenised and phone, email and address redacted before anything is sent.
- Sharing is per attribute and consent-gated — you grant specific fields to a specific person, and it travels as ciphertext we cannot read.
- A grant is revocable, and what you share cannot flow onward to anyone you never authorised.
- We do not sell or share your information with anyone, ever. There is no ad model here.
What we do not claim
- Not “your data never leaves your device,” flat. That is true in Private Mode and not true if you pick a cloud provider. We would rather tell you which is which than use the flattering version of the sentence.
- Not that Private Mode matches a big cloud model at everything. It is better on your own records — it reads the phone numbers and addresses the cloud path redacts — and weaker at open-world reasoning. The app says so when it matters.
- Not that we have solved privacy. We have narrowed what we can see, and we describe the narrow paths plainly.
- Not a claim we can’t evidence. If you find us overclaiming anywhere, tell us and we will correct it.
That second column is unusual on a marketing page, and it is there on purpose: a narrower claim you can check beats a broad one you can’t. The full detail is in our privacy policy — and we are a founding signatory of the HumanTerms privacy pledge.
Questions
What dating people ask first
Is this not a bit calculated?
Remembering that someone is allergic to shellfish is not calculated — forgetting it is just careless. The people who seem effortlessly attentive are almost always the ones with a system, and everybody else is quietly relying on luck.
Can they see what I have written about them?
No. What you save about someone is yours, on your device, and it is never shown to them or to anyone else.
Sharing in Deeta only ever works the other way round: you can choose to share fields from your own profile with someone, per field, revocably. Your private notes about other people are not part of that.
Does it connect to dating apps?
No, and it deliberately does not. Deeta is a private layer that sits with you, not an integration into anyone’s dating platform. You add what you learn, wherever you learnt it.
What happens if we stop seeing each other?
Delete the record and it is gone. There is no archive we keep for our own purposes, because we have no readable copy of it in the first place.
How much work is this to keep up?
Less than you are expecting, and that is deliberate — every product in this category has died of exactly this.
Your whole address book is there from day one, synced both ways with your phone, so there is no import and nothing stranded in a second app. After that a detail is about two seconds: say it out loud, paste a chunk of an email or your notes, share something straight from Messages or any other app, share a digital business card someone sent you and have it come in as structured details, or turn an answer you just got into a saved detail. Typing it by hand still works — it is just rarely the fastest way.
Someone AirDropped me a contact — does that work?
Yes — hand it straight to Deeta. A contact sent by AirDrop, email or message can be opened in Deeta, or shared to it, and it arrives as real details — name, title, company, numbers, socials — for you to confirm. Same review step a shared business card goes through. A file holding a few contacts is reviewed one at a time. It is meant for a card someone hands you, not a whole address book exported from another app — that is a different job, and not one Deeta does yet.
Or let your phone do it: save it in your iPhone’s Contacts app instead and it still shows up in Deeta within seconds, because the two stay synced both ways.
Two honest limits: nothing is saved until you confirm it, and a photo attached to the contact file is not carried over — every other field is.
Who it’s for
Built for anyone whose work runs on relationships
The product is the same; what changes is which details matter. Pick the one that sounds like you.
Early access
Get in while it is still early
Deeta is in private beta on iPhone. Join the waitlist and we will email you when your invite is ready.
iPhone today — iPad and Android are both in development. We only ever email you about Deeta, and we do not sell or share your information with anyone, ever.